Following Your Happy

I remember a time when it was difficult just to make it through the day.  When I would wake up, dreading the day ahead of me, barely able to put myself together and make it to work.  I’d be sitting at my desk, choking back tears and trying just to breathe through the moment.  Just to make it.  Trying not to fall to pieces and leap out of my skin. Not to crawl into a cave and hide away from the realty of the pain.  I remember those days.  I rarely think of them now, but I will always remember what it was like to live in that kind of existence.  The walls and loneliness and guilt and despair.  The hurt and anger, regret and disbelief.

I am so grateful those days are gone.

It’s almost hard to believe that was me.  That was my life.  That was my pain and my prison of emotion. I remember wondering and hoping and wishing I could break free and breathe easy again.  But never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that I would find this kind of peace and happiness in my life. That it was even possible to feel so content and so at ease in my own skin. To feel so loved and so supported and so fulfilled.  I never imagined that as a single woman turning 30 with an old beat-down car and shoes that need mending, I would feel so blessed.  That I would be able to see beauty in every day and every thing that crosses my path.  I never knew it could be like that.  I never knew that kind of love.

It began by wanting more.  Being sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.  Not wanting to cry and feel defeated.  Wanting to feel happy.  Wanting to know what made me happy.  Wanting to know that happy was possible.  It began by following my happy.  That was my first step out. My first grasp at the light and a world that was more possible that not.  Following my happy.  It seems so simple really, and yet it was, for me, the biggest leap of faith.  How could following my happy really help?  Isn’t it self indulgent to chase after happiness?  Yes.  And what better than to indulge yourself in happiness.  What a beautiful act of self care and self love.

Yes, that is me skipping toward the water!
Yes, that is me skipping toward the water!

Instead of staying home and eating ice cream on the couch with a glass of red wine and a horror flick, I called a girlfriend and we went on a walk.  Or out for a glass of wine.  Or to see a band.  Or to a movie.  I started saying yes.  F$ck it, I had to try new things.  Maybe I would like it!  Maybe it would make me happy.  Maybe it would give me hope and inspiration and help me figure out what I wanted.  Maybe if I said yes and went to every concert and cooking class and drum circle.  If I went to every symphony and art opening and karaoke night.  If I just said yes when I was invited and pushed my comfort zone.  Maybe there was more beyond the walls I built for myself and safety net of friends and hobbies I had built.  And there was.  And so much more.

To write about it all would be a novel in and of itself.  But I can tell you one thing that is so incredibly true:  the state of peace and serenity I now live in all began by wanting more.  By making the choice to follow my happy.  To follow the laughter and the smiles and the things that make my heart dance.  To embrace those moments and seek them out. To cherish them, to share them and to hold them in my heart.  To make those moments the ones I carry with me forever.

How about you?  What has helped you live a life filled with passion and purpose?

Yours truly,

Erin Terese

8 Comments Add yours

  1. It’s so easy to spiral into a word of unhappiness which in turn creates more unhappiness. I was in a place where my world was very much in black and white and I never thought I would smile again. I started saying yes to things, going out more and trying to see the positives in things. Sometimes now I walk out of the door and smile because my world is now full of colour and hope for the future. This is a great post and it rings very true to me.

    1. Erin Terese says:

      Seeing the color again is so beautiful and such a gift – isn’t it? Thank you for reading and your response. It’s always nice to find a like minded soul. xo

  2. Julie Taheri says:

    It’s nice to wake up to a paragraph of words like this . So sincere and vulnerable, makes me realize we all need to explore our happiness further .

    1. Erin Terese says:

      Thanks, Julie. Yes, let’s all explore our happy. xo

  3. Shauna says:

    I really needed to read this today and there it was. Thank you so much Erin for always being there to help me refocus and get back on my path to happiness. You are one of the greatest friends I have ever had in my life, and certainly one of the best writers I have ever had the pleasure of reading. I haven’t actually left my place yet today, but thanks to you, I’m about to walk out the door right now. The world needs you and is so fortunate to have you…and so am I ❤ Love you

    1. Erin Terese says:

      I am so glad it found you today when you needed it. Life tends to unfold like that. Just beautiful… So blessed am I to have you as a friend. Such a big heart. Keep on keepin on, darlin’. Good things are here and more are coming. LOVE you!

  4. waynemali says:

    Erin,
    Thank you so much for your words, I touched the very darkness you describe, I got to a point that I was ready to let that darkness take me forever and end it there and then. At that turning point in my life I turn to God and faith, finding a way out of my alcohol addiction and a new life. Now every morning at 5.30am I get up and walk, I see every sunrise, whether the sun is hidden or not, I see the darkness turn to light, no longer hidden behind the prison doors that were my curtains, I see life and the beauty of every time the sun rises, a journey from the dark into the light, that you describe so well. Keep seeing that colour and chasing your happy.
    Wayne

  5. Howdy! Do you use Twitter? I’d like to follow you if that would
    be ok. I’m undoubtedly enjoying your blog and
    look forward to new posts.

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